i (vickey) so appreciated my husband’s take on mother’s day. i too, have given a lot of thought
to the day. it has, as gunther pointed
out, evoked a lot of emotion over the years.
in listening to other women, i have found that for many it brings feelings
of warm fuzzy, yet for others, it can be the most painful day of the year.
when a woman’s children, or her husband, do not acknowledge
her care and sacrifices on behalf of her family, the truth is, it can cut
deep. the day can also be difficult for
those women who do not have children of their own, or who have lost children. i
personally know a number of women who hide themselves away on the day, because
the reminder of their loss overwhelms them.
one of my dearest friends, who for the sake of privacy, i
will refer to as beth, lost two babies.
both of her sons died in utero, and she and her husband were not able to
bear children of their own. she has
shared with me the kinds of emotion that mother’s day surfaces for her, and
yearly, it is a struggle. beth has been
an incredible inspiration to me, and in fact to all of the women in my
family. she has chosen to press through
her own personal pain, and give herself to uplifting other women on mother’s
day.
the first year, she simply asked if the women in our family
would like to come for tea on mother’s day.
if you knew beth, and her amazing skills, not just in the kitchen, but
for hospitality, and design, you would grasp why all of us kriwinski gals
leaped at the opportunity. beth and her
husband, who we will call steve, spent weeks planning the menu, designing the
tablescape, and even selecting just the right gifts for each of the guests. steve dressed in blacks with a red bow tie,
and served as our waiter. it was frilly,
and fun, and all of us, from great grandma to great granddaughter, felt loved
and lavished and spoiled.
the following year, beth invited us again, and yet again the
year after that. it was an event we all
hoped for and looked forward to all year, prepared and gifted to us by a couple
who chose to focus on others instead of their personal pain. their offering, the way they decided to give
rather than wallow, has inspired me to look outward at times when it would be
easy to feel sorry for myself. are there
others feeling the way i do . . . who
have suffered the loss i have (whatever that might be). what can i do to bring them a smile?
ma·ter·ni·ty (m
-tûr
n
-t
)
1. The state of being a mother; motherhood.
2. The feelings or characteristics associated with being a
mother; motherliness.
motherhood is not restricted to those who have
children. motherhood = maternity = motherliness,
in whatever ways that is demonstrated.
i do not have a mother to celebrate with. since those days of mother’s day tea, she has
gone on ahead. perhaps there is a woman,
without children of her own, who i can love on.
or a single mom who may be struggling and could use some support. what about the woman who always longed to be
a mother, but has never realized that dream?
for whatever reason, is mother’s day especially difficult
for you? look around. see who you can
invest yourself into, and make someone’s mother’s day brighter because you care.
mother’s day is this next sunday. there’s still time.
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